The One Thing You Must Change to Meet Any Goal {Healthy Habits Tuesday}

This week has been a struggle for me. I’ve been struggling with my sleep pattern. I’ve come a long way from my days as a teenager, where all I wanted to do was sleep. Actually, all I wanted to do was stay up all night, and then sleep really late. As I grew up (and got a job, and married, and had kids…), this area was probably the second biggest area that I struggled with self-discipline (the first is food). And I was miserable.

Long story short, I began praying for God to make me a morning person. I don’t even remember when I started praying this. I just knew that I got so much more done in my day when I got out of bed before the kids got up around 8:00 a.m. Which brings us to the present. I very much want to be up early (early = 6 a.m. for me), I’ve even prayed for God to help me.

Would you be surprised that He is faithful to help me? It shouldn’t.

Would it surprise you to know that I’ve ignored his prompting on the mornings that He didn’t wake the baby to nurse as my help to get out of bed? It shouldn’t.

Enter frustration.

My struggle this week has been frustration with myself. So today’s post is really for me (aren’t they all?). I’ve had this post topic in my little blog binder since the beginning of the month. Apparently, God knew I would need it this week.

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The one thing you must change to meet any goal? The voice in your head. The one that says, “I don’t want to get out of bed” or “I’ll start eating healthy tomorrow.” The voice that you allow to play in your head all day will set the tone for your day, which in turn, sets the tone for your life.

What do you replace it with?

  • Scripture. Read it. Write it. Memorize it. Say it over and over again in your head. Do it as you fall asleep and again when you get up.
  • Worship. Prayers of adoration. Praising God for who He is. Sing worship songs in your head. Seriously. Or just repeat this – “Holy, holy, holy, the Lord God almighty, which was, and is, and is to come.” See Revelation 4:8.
  • Gratitude. You may need serious change in your life, but there is always something to be thankful for. The very breath you breathe is a gift from God. You don’t have to write them out for it to count, though you may find that helpful. Focus your mind on the things God has already given you. Count your blessings all day long in your head. It has a way of changing your perspective.
  • Prayer. Lay it all out. Tell Him how frustrated, angry, hurt you are (He knows). Tell Him everything that you would tell in a venting session with your closest friend (He’s a better listener). And then, ask Him to change you. You have to be willing to LET Him change you, but if you’re willing, He will.

Did you notice something?

Not one of these changes is really you. This list is you leaning on your heavenly Father. Depending on Him. Desperately needing Him. Firmly planting yourself in His presence.

He is faithful.

Even when you’re not.

Linking up to Teachers of Good Things and Titus 2sday. Be sure to check out both of those posts for more encouragement.

Also linking up with Wellness Wednesdays.

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Turning Your Word into Success {10 Days of One Word}

10 Days of One Word into successNaming your year means nothing if it doesn’t do anything for you, right? You have to put actions to your One Word. I’d like to share a few guidelines and resources for making this year your best yet.

Set Goals

Set S.M.A.R.T. goals – specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. Do what works for you. If you are a list maker, make a list of the goals you want to achieve this year that relate to your word. If you are more of a visual person, make a mind map of your goals. If you are more social achiever, find an accountability partner or just find a friend willing to ask you how you are doing every once in a while.

Or blog about your changes, that’s pretty motivating.

Give the idea of 3 in 30 a try. It is not a link-up anymore, but the idea is still a great one. Set 3 goals each month to focus on, all working toward your main goal.

If you go the mind mapping route, I wrote a post on how to turn it into action.

Make a To Do List

You may have chosen a word that doesn’t really work well with goal setting. If so, try a to do or reminder list. Follow the S.M.A.R.T. guidelines and don’t overload yourself. Maybe a to read list to fuel your change.

Change Your Inner Voice

If you don’t change what you tell yourself, changes will not stick for the long run. I’ll be covering this in the next Healthy Habits Tuesday post, so be sure to watch for that. It’s important.

Don’t Give Up

Expect that sometimes things aren’t going to go right. You will stumble. You may even fall flat on your face. DON’T STAY THERE. Sorry to yell at you, but you needed it. Have a little pity party for yourself, if you need to, but get back up and keep going.

Point being, you have to actually do something if you want change to happen. There is no way around it.

Next in the series – Other One Word Resources, followed by the finale My One Word for 2013. See all the posts in day one’s overview post.

3 Words NOT to Use {10 Days of One Word} Day 7

We are almost finished with 10 Days of One Word! Can you believe it? We have three posts left – turning your One Word into action, other One Word resources, and the post where I’ll finally tell you my One Word. Today, though, we are going to talk about three words that you do NOT want to use. Today’s post will be relatively short and sweet.

10 Days of One Word 3 words not use1. Clutter

Have you ever paid attention to how much clutter can literally suck the life out of you? Now that I realized how it makes me feel, it drives me insane. I just wish I could learn to manage it better at a quicker pace. Recovering from a pack-rat mindset and a organization system that revolved around piles takes a while.

Some words to battle clutter – Neat. Clean. Order. Simple. Calm. Clear.

2. Busy

I’ve come to realize that I do not like busy. Busy means that I don’t have the flexibility of time when something unexpected comes up. I like flexibility, which mean you should, too. Ahem. Seriously though, if you are too busy to spend time with your family as a family, you are too busy in general. Make your family a priority, they won’t be there forever.

Words to fight the busy – Free. Available. Present. Here.

3. Hurry

Nothing stifles creativity like hurry. Nothing brings temper tantrums and behavior problems with kids like hurry. Yep, I know this. You couple my penchant for procrastination with my disdain for routine and you do not get anywhere on time. I’ve come to loathe this. Sprinkle on a little bit of kids mirroring my habits and I’m surprised I have any hair left on my head. So in summary, hurry = not good.

Words to slow down the hurry – Slow. Steady. Steadfast.

See? Short and sweet.

Tomorrow – Turn Your Word into Action. Check out the rest of the series.

Turning Your Goals Into Action

Last time I wrote about mind mapping out your goals. This time, we are going to take that map and make some plans. These plans are like the driving directions to your goals. It’s the route you plan on taking to get to your destination.

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When you set your goals, you were sure to make them measurable and attainable, right? Because there is no point in setting goals that you can’t meet. Like me setting a goal to never eat chocolate again…that ain’t happening. So remember, be realistic with your goals. Yes, you want change, but you do not want to set yourself up for failure.

Now, take your mind map. Here’s mine, for reference:

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Your main goal is front and center. What we want to focus on first is your very first set of branches or bubbles. In my map, they are purple with red bubbles: spiritual, hydration, supplemental, physical, environmental, and food.

Pick three to focus on first. I’m choosing spiritual, hydration, and food.

Break it down now. <–I amuse myself.

Set some goals that have to do with each focus for the month or so. I add the “or so” because, like me, you may have some goals that are going to take you several months to achieve (hello, learn to love exercise?!).

This is a good time to use the next set of bubbles (written in green and circled in teal on my map). Depending on how specific you got on your map, you may have already set your goals.

Here is the breakdown of my goals:

Spiritual

1. Memorize scripture – memorize Romans 14:12, Galatians 6:9, and 1 Corinthians 14:40 (these are from my list of scriptures to memorize for overcoming procrastination, by the way)

2. Pray – pray daily for God to give me a desire to accomplish my goals that outweighs my desire to stay the same

Hydration

1. More h2o – drink at least two glasses of water for every cup of coffee, sweet tea, or anything non-water I drink (I’m going to track this in my food journal)

Food

1. More veggies – find/create a meal routine that includes more veggies

2. Remove HFCS – read all labels when grocery shopping and buy no more items with HFCS in them

Reward yourself. Pick rewards that make sense. If you are quitting smoking, you don’t want to reward yourself with a cigarette. Get my point?

My reward will be a new book. And because I’m planning for success, I’m gonna be working on building my Swagbucks up to get another Amazon gift card.

Now, a gift for you. I made this little chart for you to print out to put your goals front and center, aka on the refrigerator. Just go to Flickr and download the original size (8.5″x11″):

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Next time, we’ll talk about making the ONE change that you absolutely MUST do to succeed with your goals!

Home-Life Related One Words {10 Days of One Word}

10 Days of One Word home lifeAround the holidays people seem to really focus on family. Keep the relationships growing with a focus on your family this year. Or take the year to get your home better organized and get those projects finished.

1. Family

Use 2013 to grow relationships that may have been neglected in the past or simply focus on those most important to you. Children are only children for such a short time. Set a weekly or monthly family night/day. Plan (and take) your first family vacation. Simply take some time each day to hug your kids. Spend some time each day making out with your spouse. What?

2. Time

If you are someone who doesn’t need help with time management, please share your secrets to perfection. Seriously, guest post? If you are like me, time has a way of getting away from you. Purpose to work on that this year. Might I suggest some reading? I’m reading it now.

3. Simple

I am the queen of over-complicating things. Seriously. Aim to simplify your home and your life. Say no. Declutter. Organize what’s left. Find a rhythm that works for your life. Simplify your meal planning. Or make your meal time simple by starting to plan your meals.

4. Fun

I’m sure my kiddos would love if I chose this one. Maybe next year. Actually, my word is related to this, but you’ll have to wait to see what it is. Back to you, maybe you need more fun in your life. Maybe you don’t even remember what fun is like. If so, I’m so sorry. Find it again. It makes life more enjoyable. Laughter does this, too.

5. More

More family time. More time off. More laughter. More food. More moving. More dancing. More money. More…you get the idea.

6. Yes

Tell your kids yes. Say yes to fun. Say yes to new things and ideas. Say yes to real food. Stop finding excuses and say yes.

7. Better

We can always do better. Take steps to turn your bad habits into something better. There’s a saying that goes something like “Good, better, best. Don’t rest til your good is better and your better is best.” Sounds like a good way to be moving forward.

8. Routine

I’ve always viewed routine as stifling to my creative side. Well, that’s the excuse I’ve used to avoid routine like the plague. Learning to find the good in routine this year is part of my goals, resolutions, and such for the year. Find a routine that works for you this year. One that makes your life better.

9. Quiet

If you have kids, you may be laughing at me. I know I am. In all seriousness, teaching my children to value quiet became a priority when our little guy came along last February. Thankfully, they embraced this, although we have never had the daily quiet time I hear many homeschool mamas talk about. Well, not exactly anyways.

For a change of pace, we next look at a few words you DON’T want to use. Don’t miss any of the other posts in the series!

Action-Packed One Words {10 Days of One Word}

10 Days of One Word actionBut be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.” – James 1:22-25 (emphasis mine)

I think it’s pretty clear that God doesn’t view sitting on our hind-quarters as a life well lived. Action is something I struggle with, to be honest. I’m the curl up on a couch with a good book, chat with friends for hours kind of girl. I’ve been working on this for a few years now. Which brings me to another reason I love One Word. I’ve found that it isn’t just a one year thing. I’m still finding ways that I’m changing, becoming more diligent, and doing new things. It is part of the process of God refining this miry clay of me. Enough of me.

Now I bring you today’s list of One Words. This list is a list of verbs – “a word used to describe an action, state, or occurrence. Today’s list is kind of long.

  1. Make
  2. Build
  3. Create
  4. Prepare
  5. Cook
  6. Move
  7. Walk
  8. Stir
  9. Progress
  10. Act
  11. Touch
  12. Heal
  13. Improve
  14. Help
  15. Abide
  16. Persist
  17. Obey
  18. Observe
  19. Accept
  20. Grow
  21. Cultivate
  22. Thrive
  23. Flourish
  24. Nurture
  25. Go
  26. Stretch
  27. Lead
  28. Give
  29. Commit
  30. Devote
  31. Dedicate
  32. Deliver
  33. Explore
  34. Consider
  35. Study
  36. Review
  37. Do
  38. Accomplish
  39. Achieve
  40. Behave
  41. Adjust
  42. Resolve
  43. Journey
  44. Drive
  45. Travel

Next, words inspired by home. Check out the rest of the series on the Overview post!

Personal Character One Words {10 Days of One Word}

10 Days of One Word personal character

Very often the whole point of resolutions or goals is to improve “me”. Creating a change in our personal lives now, impacts the rest of our lives indefinitely. When we stop procrastinating now, we are able to get more done from here on out. When we purpose to get all those little things we’ve been avoiding done now, we have them off our backs forever. It’s amazing how good it feels to get something you’ve been avoiding done, by the way. Not that I have lots of things that I avoid doing or anything…ahem. So. Onto some personal character words for you to consider.

1. New

“And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the Lord.Blessed is that man that maketh the Lord his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies.” – Psalm 40:3-4

“It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.” – Lamentations 3:22-23

2. Change

“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” – 2 Corinthians 3:18

3. Diligence

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee. Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee. Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established. Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot from evil.” – Proverbs 4:23-27

“But take diligent heed to do the commandment and the law, which Moses the servant of the Lord charged you, to love the Lord your God, and to walk in all his ways, and to keep his commandments, and to cleave unto him, and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul.” – Joshua 22:5

“But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” – Hebrews 11:6

4. Contentment

“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” Philippians 4:11

5. Mercy

“Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father is also merciful.” – Luke 6:36

6. Courage

“Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” – Deuteronomy 31:6

7. Generous

“Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy; That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate; laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life.” – 1 Timothy 6:17-19

8. Gratitude

“Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;” – Ephesians 5:20

“Rooted and built up in him, and stablished in the faith, as ye have been taught, abounding therein with thanksgiving.” – Colossians 2:7

9. Wait

“The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the Lord.” – Lamentations 3:25-26

Changing ourselves is impossible without the strength of our Lord (Philippians 4:13). May I encourage you to pick a verse that goes with your chosen word of the year to memorize. Then, when struggles come, repeat over and over in your head to overcome. I do this as I go to sleep at night now. I only have two verses memorize (pitiful, I know) so it’s pretty repetitive, but it works to keep my mind still focused on God.

Up next, Action-Packed One Words. See you Monday for those! Check out the rest of the series by visiting the Overview page!

God-Centered One Words, Part Two {10 Days of One Word}

10 Days of One Word God part 2

Another list of seven words centered around God to consider for your One Word.

1. Worship

“O Come, let us sing unto the Lord: let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms. For the Lord is a great God, and a great Kind above all gods. In his hand are the deep places of the earth: the strength of the hills is his also. The sea is his, and he made it: and his hands formed the dry land. O come, let us worship and bow down: let us kneel before the Lord our maker.” – Psalm 95:1-6

2. Deeper

“He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.” – Luke 6:48

“But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.” – 1 Corinthians 2:10

3. Temple

“Know ye not that ye are teh temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.” – 1 Corinthians 3:16-17

4. Hope

“But I will hope continually, and will yet praise thee more and more.” – Psalm 71:14

5. Joy

“Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.” – Psalm 16:11

“For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5

“Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.” – Psalm 51:12

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.” – James 1:2-3

6. Love

“And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.” – Ephesians 5:2

7. Grace

“But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” 2 Peter 3:18

“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my stength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

Tomorrow – Personal Character One Words

Check out the rest of the series in the Overview post.